Time for the first date?

When the time comes for the first date, you’re bound to have a few butterflies in your stomach. Good! That’s how it should feel! It’s not always easy to think of what to do on your first date.

Everyone’s different. Some people like to do something active while others prefer to relax and chat over a cup of coffee. Try out Firstdate’s dating tips. And remember, the most important thing isn’t what you do on your date, but that you’ve decided to meet up and see if there’s a spark that you can develop over future dates.

A few tips for your first date

  • Read about the person you’re meeting. We don’t mean research the last twenty years of their life, but it’s good to read up on and keep in mind the topics that you’ve chatted about.
  • If you both enjoy drinking coffee, why not start with a date at the town’s best café. Going for a coffee is the most popular first date.
  • But maybe it’s better to meet in the evening? Book a table at a restaurant that’s nice but not pretentious.
  • Or why not meet at the snooker hall? A bit of competition is stimulating and also lightens the mood.
  • In snowy weather, why not try a bit of tobogganing for a fun change?
  • You might not feel entirely comfortable stripping off at the beach on a first date, but dipping your toes in the water and talking about nature can be a nice thing to do.
  • Don’t dress to impress at the expense of comfort. Wear something you feel comfortable in.
  • Be on time. Let your date know if you know you’re going to be late.
  • Don’t have high expectations. You can still be a good match even without that instant spark.
  • Do you have a dog? Take your date for a walk with your dog. Walking means you don’t need to sit opposite one another. This is a good idea for those who are shy or fidgety.
  • Book a lunch! This gives you a natural end time and the option of following things up again later.
  • Meet for a glass of wine, but take it easy with the booze. It’s easy to have one glass too many when you’re nervous.
  • Don’t take a gift on the first date. It may feel a bit contrived.
  • Listen. And follow up with questions. This helps conversation to flow better.
  • Maintain eye contact as much as possible even if you’re nervous.
  • Silence needn’t be a bad thing, but to be on the safe side it’s a good idea to remember a few of your date’s interests so you have something to ask them about.
  • Do you find it difficult to get a conversation started? Ask about travel. Scandinavians are avid travellers, whether it’s a camping weekend out in the country or a surfing holiday in Costa Rica.
  • Honesty is the best policy. Some clichés are actually worth sticking to.
  • Offer to pay your share of the bill, or pay for every other round if you go out for drinks.
  • Be positive.
  • Be yourself and show your true personality.
  • Leave stories about your ex at home. Avoid talking about your past relationships.
  • Have fun, and remember that everyone likes to have a laugh!
  • If things don’t feel right, stop the date and thank him or her for their time.

It’s fine to hug or kiss one another after a first date if everything feels good, but don’t go all the way on the first date. You’ll have lots of time to cozy up when the time is right.